If your man smells different suddenly, it may be because his body chemistry has changed from being with another woman. Notice his body language. Your husband's body language can also say a lot about whether he is cheating on you. Even if he says the right things, his body could betray him. Here are some signs that something has changed for him: Note the amount of eye contact he gives you. If you used to always look into your eyes when you spoke but now always looks away, he may be doing it out of guilt.
Note a lack of affection. If he used to kiss you, hug you, put his arm around you, and let you know how much he cared through his touches but never touches you any more, then something may be up. See if he turns away from you when you are talking. If he crosses his arms, turns away from you, and does not face you with his body, then he may be retreating because he is uncomfortable.
Notice if he shows you affection when you are alone, but not when you go out. If he is all over you when you are home but he is distant the second you step out the door, it may be because he is afraid his mistress will catch him with another woman. Look through his things. Though looking through your husband's things is a quick way to break his trust, if you are sure he is cheating and want concrete evidence, you can try this maneuver.
If you really want to know if he's cheating, here are some places to look: If he's savvy, you won't be able to find evidence of him cheating on your phone. But if he's not, you can look for an exchange with a woman you've never heard of. He may even not have plugged his mistress' number in his phone -- look for texts and calls to unidentified numbers. If you really want to know if he is cheating, check out his email or Facebook messages. You can wait for him to step away from his computer when he is logged into email. If he also has started meticulously deleting his emails, that can be a sign that he is hiding something from you.
Search through his stuff. Go through his suitcase, desk, wallet, or even the pockets of his pants for clues. Check his bank statements. Look out for any time he has spent large sums of money at a restaurant you have never heard of. Check out the dates and think about where he said he was; if he said he was working late one night but spent a lot of money on a fancy dinner right then, which is a reason to worry. If you are afraid to ask if he is cheating or have not found enough evidence, you can try following him to see where he really goes. Again, this is another way to lose his trust very quickly.
Here are some ways to pull this off: Don't follow him in your own car. Borrow a friend's car so he does not notice that you are behind him. Keep a safe distance. Whether you are on foot or in a vehicle, don't get too close, or he'll spot you. Check in on him when he is not expecting it. If he says he's working overtime or watching the game at a friend's house, "drop in" unexpectedly and see if he's really there.
Just make sure you have a good excuse for why you just showed up. Ask if he is cheating.
After you have seen enough signs that he is not being faithful, it will be time to talk to your husband about it. Though the conversation will be painful, it's better not to delay it if you really want to have the truth. Here's how you can find a way to ask your husband if he's being unfaithful: Ask him when he's not expecting it. As long as you are in a private place, you can have the conversation. Don't tell him you want to have a big talk, or he may know exactly what you have in mind and will already be prepared to make excuses.
Tell him that you want the truth. Remind him that he is not doing you any favors by being dishonest. Show him that he is really hurting you. Let him see how upset the idea of him being unfaithful makes you. Am I wrong to go back to my cheating husband because he's my son's father? I don't believe there is a wrong or right in this situation. You have a son together so you will always have that bond, but I would have a serious talk with him, lay down the law about what your expectations are going forward.
If you feel you can trust him again, great. But keep in mind, your son would probably choose to have divorced parents over a miserable mother. Not Helpful 22 Helpful Hide a automatic voice recorder where he spending the most time. Not Helpful 23 Helpful My fiance signed up for dating sites. He is always on his phone sending and receiving texts. I ask who it is and he gives the name of someone that we both know, but he gets out of whatever he is looking at when I get close to him. Is that a sign he's cheating?
Unless you have agreed to an 'open' relationship and are okay with each other seeing other people, that is almost certainly cheating. There is no legitimate reason for your fiance to be signed up for dating sites, and all of what you describe is very shady. He's clearly not very serious about you. It would be best to get out of this relationship before you end up stuck in a marriage with him. Not Helpful 11 Helpful Is he cheating if he's threatening to leave me, calling me overweight, and we have a decreased sex life? He may be, yes.
Have a serious sit down talk with him, and ask him why he feels the way he does. If he's not willing to work on your relationship, doesn't want to be with you, or gets defensive, chances are he could be cheating, or just unhappy. In either case, you should think about yourself and how you can become happy, even if that means leaving him.
Check his call list for any numbers showing no name. Write it down and call from a private number to see who answers before you move forward with confronting him. Not Helpful 28 Helpful My husband works a lot and has told me he could get away with cheating if he "wanted. If I were you, I would be concerned. That seems like a strange comment to make to your partner at any point. That confrontation was 2 days ago.
Yesterday he texted with me all day. All about our feelings for each other which is difficult for him to do. Last night we had a great night. Not only did he use his phone in front of me, when he received texts he told me who they were from. And he left the room multiple times leaving me alone in the other room with his phone. My boyfriend did same thing and when i confront him he denied everything and few days was extremely nice to me, i got a lot of his attention and he left his phone around me and leave as well. He was playing in honest guy but reality he blocked her number for a while to keep fooling me about.
What do you think — is his text message enough evidence that he is having an affair? I probably be equally concerned about my husband breaking my nose. Regardless of whether or not cheating… What do you think about him assaulting you like that? What would you tell someone in your position? What would you tell your kid, or a best friend you had when you were young, or your sister? What advice would you give? Not that u are but I feel when people hear my situation they pity me and that is not at all what I want in any way. Because I am a very strong willed woman and mother who has over come a lot of challenges and obstacles in my life and intended to keep trying until I can get through this one as well.
For instance my mother was a single mom of five children so at 16 I was made to marry a 27 year old man so that she could get help financially to pay bills and take care of my other siblings.. Unlike when I get abused I can go on and act like it never happened. They have no support and no place to go to.. I can relate to you on here my husband bought a new phone and left his old phone here. I have a three-year-old and told him I had postpartum depression.
Ive been married for 12 years. He had his birthday in November, and went out for dinner with a few work mates. He was first telling me he had gone home on the train to the Navy accommodation block. Then caught the train back in the morning to meet up for breakfast.
After questioning him some more, he admitted he had stayed there the weekend in November. He was still referring to her as someone till I again questioned him. I was then told her name was Judy. His story was still changing. He told me he asked her if he could stay, but quickly changed that to she asked him. He says nothing happened and he slept on the couch. I feel he had a one night stand, as he got all defensive when I questioned him, even asked me hed I had been having an affair, so put it back on me. I found out in October my husband was talking to another woman for 5 months.
He said he was only talking to her notjing happened. I had to meet the other woman to get the truth in December and find out they had a realtionship. How can you talk to your husband about your feelings without getting into a fight? Come to find out they work together. What if I was told by a girl he cheated, then I found a message from him to that girls friend saying he wanted her.
My gut and the message proves he did but he denies it. I feel like my husband is hiding something. I found out in Sept that my husband was having an affair for 2 or 3 months. He did all of the usual crappy stuff like lying and sneaking around and sleeping with his phone. He admitted to the affair. He said it was a girl he went to nursing school with a few years before and he saw her at a store where they began talking.
They hooked up in hotel rooms while I thought he was at work. He even had the gall to answer some of my texts while he was laying in the hotel bed with her. He told me so. She was 20 years younger than m3. I find it incredibly odd that she just happened to move away right at the time I found out about the affair. I asked what her name was but he refused to tell me. After constant demanding from me via text while he was at work. We are trying to work things out but my doubts about this are eating me up. What do yall think? I am so sorry! My husband is also lying about cheating and I found him on the craiglist!!
I believe he is cheating. I have lived it. My husband and I have been going through this for years with stupid messaging relationships and I always get tired of fighting and forgive him but it never stops it from happening again. He cheated on me when I was carrying our son but I married him anyway. Wish I had left after the first time…. These are good ways to find out if your husband is lying about cheating. But since nowadays everyone has mobile phones, and you can just install a program for tracking his phone. Even if he deletes all of the correspondence you will see everything.
The only reason he is still with me is for our kids. I think that is also why I stay quiet and let it happen. I afraid I have lived with him since I was 18 years I am now He hates when I have to go help my mom and says really stupid things. You are worth so much more…. I wish you all the strength in the world.. Ellie thank you so much for your kind words.
I have spoke to him and told him the things that bother me and he has been better attentive. What tracking program would you recommend to find out if your husband is lying about cheating? Talk to someone you trust. Get in-person advice and counseling. Talk to someone who knows you, or who is objective such as a counselor or therapist. Know that you can handle this! Whether or not your husband is cheating, you have the resources and strength you need to deal with it. Connect with women who are strong and understanding, and find ways to get emotionally and spiritually strong. Find pockets of life and light, and stay there.
Be wise, and trust that you are loved completely by Someone bigger and stronger than your husband. Great info here Laurie. I like the 5 points how to know if your spouse is cheating. You should have a base expression of your spouse when the two of you are chatting together casual. Then if you want to know if your spouse is lying you can use that base expression when asking questions. In this way you have a way to check if your spouse is lying or telling the truth.
He took that picture on the restroom and sent it to her there was no other emails to her anymore just that picture.. I go over his friends on Facebook and because of her name and phone on Facebook I find out it was a high school friend who is married and has a little girl.. I confronted him again he said they where just talking but he deleted all the messages.. I have found more messages from different girls on his social media he said there is nothing wrong in talking to girls but he deletes Athens messages if there is nothing wrong why delete them right..
I have deleted several girls from his Facebook but thereshe this one that he always request back his Facebook account was deactivatedoing for some time first thing he does is request that girl again and he hids it from his timeline.. Lucky me I ran across your website by accident stumbleupon. I have book marked it for later! But I did find a really interesting book about men who cheat, and I wrote this article:. There are some really interesting tips and ideas for how to know if your husband is cheating in the book I cite. The best thing is to get evidence, so you have something solid to confront him with.
Hi, my husband and I have been married for a little over a year. We had seperated in September until November Long story short he left me 3 hours away from home and went back home, after he realized he screwed up he called crying. Fast forward to April , I had recieved a phone call from a private number at maybe am from a female stating she had been screwing my husband. Well I broke it to her that I had just screwed him and it upset her so she hung up.
Well he falls asleep and I went through his phone and found somethings from a female he said was like a sister. It crushed me and sent me into a very bad depression not only was my husband cheating but I had also found out 2 weeks prior that a good friend had been murdered.
My world was shattered. Well I broke it to him that if we are going to work he cannot hurt me anymore because if he does I will walk out and he can never get me back. Well fast forward to about 2 months ago. His job was hiring and I had a friend whom I had worked with previously looking for a job. She started work and it was all good except he started to care a lot more about his apperence.
Wearing jeans, nice shirt, nice shoes and doing more to his hair. He has a very chill job and usually wore sweats well Up until 3 weeks ago. He started to change, being very mean, being out late, changing his phones password, blocking me. All different types of things. They had been texting, talking on Facebook and God only knows what at work. Well I began to ask questions and my husband kept saying I was crazy and how I was always accusing him but I have always been right about him.
So I blocked her and him and I fought. When I questioned it he flipped on me. He then sent her text messages that he deleted before I saw them. Is my husband cheating? What should I do? Your instincts are dead on. You need to confront your friend and end the friendship with her as well. If you cant work it out with your husband divorce is a great option. Based on the information you have posted here ,your husband is a serial cheater. Men like to make u think that you are the crazyone but you are intuitive and intelligent enough to see what is going on.
It is up to you to love your self ,not lower your standards and find youa good man that will treat you like a queen. If you want to know if your husband is lying about cheating. My cousin lived with us for one year as house helper, after few months i suspected something between my husband and my cousin, like they sometimes look for each other without telling me the reason, one time we were on vacation and he went home because his reason was of that our business, and one time i saw him running after her when she was about to go home, and many more,.
After a year the girl was not with us anymore. But i am confused and i doubt hes lying. My husband and I have been married two years now. Together for about seven years. Before we were officially together he treated me like no other had before. I fully explained what I expected from our relationship and the balance of friends and romance time.
We moved onwards from there, but it always felt like something was wrong. It was as if I was a chore or a roommate. It made me so confused and depressed. I did everything for him. I told myself that it would go back to the way it was. Things would be okay. Maybe it was the slowing down of drinking? One night he was on call at the local tow company he worked for and a text message came in that he slept through.
I cried and cried and then cried some more. My amazing man who lifted up my spirits like nobody else could, had shattered my world with an affair.
I checked his Facebook page while I was at it. At least seven more affairs. We went to couples counseling to try to heal the wounds within our relationship. It ended up being more like his therapy sessions. I was invisible there. There was and still has been no sympathy or compassion for my broken heart. Not from him or the therapist. Thinking that I had known everything now and maybe we could be stronger, I married him. He refuses to talk about it or even accept his own guilt. I just have to deal with it and move on.
I believe that he has tried to hook up with this girl again. He truly thinks that with his past he should be trusted and that he needs to do nothing to fix this. I wish I had known everything before we were married. I so sorry ur going through this. Like all women, we fell hook, line and sinker…They got us, but still wants to live the single life.
If I was in ur shoes, I would sit down and have heart to heart talk with him. C what he wants and what u want. Even if there are children, no children or adult should live like this…. You need to find out…. Samantha- I read your story. You had faith, it was broken. You gave him the benefit of the doubt, that was thrown in your face.
Are you waiting for a sex tape to arrive at your house? You seem like a kind trusting person. You would not do those things to him! Trust me, there is a man for you. Move on and leave him behind. I am in a VERY similar situation: I thought we were so perfect together, he was my safe place and my best friend. About a month before our 1 year anniversary I caught him lying about something. I was so deviated. In that moment in felt like the man I had loved had just died.. I still feel like this is cheating either way.
But my trust for him is gone, and so is the beautiful relationship I thought we had. Are you going to stay with your husband? My story is a little different. A married man took advantage of me 3 year ago. It started as normal as can be. We both live in the same building.
If you think your husband is cheating, you're picking up on important subconscious clues. Here are 5 signs he's cheating, plus 4 ways to tell if he's lying. If you want to know if your husband has been cheating on you, then you should look at what he . Here are some signs that something has changed for him.
I live for 39 he 23 years. I first saw him 20 plus years, never spoken to each other. Then about 4 years ago, I was telling a joke to my other neighbors and there he was laughing…I introduced myself to him. There is and was nothing going on between us but a friendship…well I thought. We spent many hours talking and spare life stories.
Little did I know, he was waiting for the right moment to assault me. U see I kind of know his wife, and went to high school with his sis-in-law. I could walk away from this and just take it a misunderstanding.. He is chronic liar and a cheater. I always ask him to take a test.. I waiting and waiting until Feb 21, I told his wife.
His wife called me a liar and everything on the book. He was force to tell his wife and the polices his affairs, his one nightstands and what he did to me…After all this, do I regret telling his wife…NO. First, I wanted to put him and every man like him in his place. And second I wanted to hurt him and if it means going through his wife, then YES. Half of my neighbors have known he was cheating for years. I in therapy…As far as I know the wife still with him, knowing he cheats. He takes care of her by paying her rent and etc.
There are women out there like his wife who are blind and stupid…I was stupid for 3 years,,,where his wife over 23 years…why she and other stay is the answer I would like to know…. I was also taken advantage of when I was in a VERY vulnerable position, just experienced a lot of major trauma, huge losses my entire family , he hurt my grown son, etc. I was devastated from losing my whole family! He got VERY ugly, snapped, etc. It was at a horrendous time too when Is just been dealt another loss! How cruel I thought!
I was doubled over in severe emotional paun, crying out to God! Sweet Pea, It gives me some comfort knowing I not alone. He is not a nice man. It was all his fault. I come from a difference race. But I prove him wrong. And if hurting him means going through his wife I will…. My husband has been working for the past month from Sunday to Sunday. For the first time he stayed out the whole night and lied where he were. We have a three year old daughter together. I prayed with someone else where two or more are together Jesus is in the midst.
She was mad and threatening to tell me. I that affair started when I was pregnant and I found out when our son was 15 months old. Such a smart response. I have prayed that too and God has revealed it when it needed to be, every time! You are absolutely right!
I to prayed That The Lord would reveal to me what I needed to know! I found the texts and my world collapsed! Out of all the nights to check and all of the times he deleted texts before coming home, this one night, he forgot. Everytime he goes to visit them. I confronted him n he denied saying she meant before I came into his life. Some months passed and one day she called saying she was pregnant again…he became moody. He took me outside on a stroll…we talked and he said he was sorry about wat he had to tell me.
He told me that when he went there he drank with her and her friend…n became drunk. This took him months to tell me. I feel he lied about everything. Nothing against you more against them. Yes he made the whole story up. Tell her the story he told you and it will piss her off and she will tell everything. My husband was texting a female at work all night, I asked who the woman was and he said it was an older woman from another line he works in a large assembly plant. I asked to see the text and he deleted them. So, I called the number and it was a female his age. Come to find out this lady had left her husband a few yrs ago for another man at the plant and he works the opposite shift as them.
She was also pentecostal and stopped wearing skirts, started wearing make up and cut her hair. I called her and acted like he was sitting there, she tells me they are just really good friends and that she was telling him she was done meaning done being friends with him. She also said they met up at a parking lot where a lot of people go to hang out and drink after work at around 2 or 3 am when they get off work. She swore nothing sexual but all she cared about was her boyfriend who works the other shift and was very defensive. I told him no and that if he talks to her without me around I was leaving, I said you have the entire weekend to call her with me sitting right here.
I just felt like that if he was really that mad he would have called her. My husband went away on business the same weekend i took our daughters on a shopping trip, but my gut told me different. He has a history of lying to me but thought he had stopped. I found strange underware but we all joked it off. He geta defensive when I ask small questions. Coverststions are less, sex gas gone from 2 times a day to, once every 3 months. No hand holding no romance pretty much nothing!!! He owns his own business and ends his day at the same place before coming everyday another womans business.
I have confronted him several times, showed up there once that was a bad idea he got so upset. He gets very defensive when i bring anything up. I have seen flirtations in emails to and from other women that he denies. I tell him I love him. I do little special things for him. Not to walk away thinking what if i was wrong, did I just give up.
There are a lot of financial issues as well that could be keeping him here I think thats the only glue. Please help by telling me what you think! I waited 30 years,same shit,now go running. Why are you wasting what is left of your youth on a man who is interested in other women? You will find another man, someone who wants only you. You know it and he knows you know it. You are worth so much more than this!!! You can do it. Vickie, you already know honey. He is treating you disrespectably. At this point, anything you endure is your own fault.
I know that sounds harsh, but you know better. Your belly is screaming at you. That means leaving him and not allowing it. If you have children, you do not want to show them this as an acceptable way to treat people, or allow yourself to be treated. You are worth more. That means act as if, fake it til you make it. Once you get through that you will feel good and be empowered. I sat it all the time, but remember this. It is so important.
And we are blessed with 22months old son. If i say i understand whats happening in my marriage now am lying. I cant even say i understand my husband anymore. He lies so much that it piss me off all the time. Well, to cut the long story short, i believed him and we moved on. When i confronted him, He accepted and told me it was the daughter of a male colleague at work, when i investigated, it was another lie.
The daughter actually belong to one whom he has actually been talking to over the phone. Am just tired and i dont know what else to do. Am contemplating ending the marriage. Abiola- I feel bad for you, but the writing is crusty on the wall. The man is trying like Hell to cheat on you. AND you caught him lying over and over… Why is he lying? Dont wait till he leaves for someone else! Get rid of him. Hello folks, reading many thoughts of. Cheaters just make me sick. Been there, had husband of 13yrs cheat on me.
BS, she was calling him all hrs of night, evening…… wow how stupid I was. Sure some where calls i heard radio traffic, but after it was over several hours later not home. Then when he did get home it was jump in shower, well i read that you can tell if man had sex especially in hurry to leave gf, check underwear for late ejectuation.
Yup, white crud in underwear, but i couldnt prove it. Than took job out of state and he insisted that i go. When furloughed , wow eye opener i got. Went to use my lap top and he was on earlier but due to a fire call, oopsie he forgot to log out! And what i found; all the naked pictures of her in his email, his IM on fb with more naked pictures of her in my house, pictures at her house saying if her family found out she is done.
Well being pissed i took those pictures printed out , mailed to her husband, her neighbors all on fire department who helped lie for him. Few weeks into it her husband dyes of cancer, her son disowned her and my husband said he didnt do anything and is innocent. Hmmm , i find bs. Well i went to counseling, tried to turn other cheek, live what bible says about forgiveness ,we even MOVED out of state.
Been two years and he is starting to lie to me and our son. Talks rude disrespectful and down grade. My son begs me wait til he is in mid teens to leave his father, but am so misable. I can dance naked on the bed in front of him, dont do anyghing, bring out my toy he dont care, what do i need to do to let him know am here? The open and honest communication you and your husband are having now is awesome.
He is learning about emotional affairs, and you are learning how to recognize and talk about the signs a husband is cheating. This is excellent growth — you and he and moving forward in your relationship. I hope you can see and appreciate this, because focusing on your growth and communication will help you and him get closer. Thank you for your comments.
He does not want to go to counseling. Thinks we can work on this together and tells me that I can go if I want to. He says he has told me everything after initially lieing. He is remorseful at hurting me and our marriage. I try to tell myself if he wanted to be with that other woman, he would just leave me. I have been with my man for 8 years and married for two. In October of , I went on a five day vacation with my daughter. I asked him who this was. That it must of been attached to a junk email he got.
A week later, because I found an unknown name in his address book of his email and asked him who it was, he confessed that it was the girl in that picture. I cried and cried. He told me that a few days before I left for vacation, this girl called him at work leaving a message that she was in town and that he could stop by to see her. He said he had worked with this girl many years ago and they were friends then. He admitted after dropping me off at the airport, he went to work on his day off, listened to her voicemail to retrieve her number.
He admitted he called her the next day. They talked and he said he told her that he would stop by when he was working if he could. Two days after he returned to work and stopped at her relatives house where she was. He told me that she asked if they could stay in touch. He gave her his email address.
He admitted she emailed him for the next four weeks and he would answer her back. He admitted he told her not to email on his days off or at night because he would be with me. That leads to the day he accidentally autosaved a picture she sent him and I found it. He tells me it was the only picture she ever sent.
She was fully clothed, just a selfie of herself. He admitted he deleted the emails as they came in. We talked and came to the determination together that our marriage had some problems and that if he was happier in our marriage, maybe he would of not decided to allow this to happen. She sought him out.
He swears they only had a friendship and is not nor ever was attracted to her sexually. He said he never got that feeling from her either. He said during the week he lied to me about the picture, he was trying to figure out how to tell me. He said that during the time he and she were emailing, he felt guilty because he knew it was wrong and was going to let it phase out because it seem to be. So, he only ended it the day I found the picture. He told me this that day a week later when I found her name in his address book.
He said he emailed her afterward telling her I found the picture and they would not be contacting or emailing anymore.
The day he confessed, I asked him to email her in front of me so I could see how they interacted. He wrote just hi to her. She replied asking him how is he emailing her from that email. He replied by asking why. That response made me feel like maybe they were just friends. He told me he secretly emailed an old friend for 4 weeks, but did not see her in person other than that one time. He said he never kissed all the way to sex with her. I went through with it anyway. All came up negative.
He tells me he knows he lied when I first found the picture, but has since told me everything and is being honest. He has sincerely told me he loves me, is still in love with me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He seems to be telling the truth, but why do I still feel unsure? I am consumed in what happened. I want to stay with him, but am afraid he did sleep with this woman. Hi Kim, I recently had a very similar experience with my long term boyfriend 13 years.
I feel like I have gone insane. I was reading these articles and I ran into your comment. It hit me straight in my stomach. But at the same time, how can I be overreacting? I feel tormented by this. Listen to your gut. Elisa said that she had a weird feeling, and she found her husband viewing the profile of another woman on Facebook. She trusted her gut — her intuition — and she was right. What is your gut telling you about what you should do next? Write down the answers. Well my situation continues to spiral downwards.
There were favors involved working her shifts. I recently learned that he kept track of the days he saw her by drawing smiley faces in his calendar. When I asked why there were none for me he said it was because we are married and I am home everyday. He admitted to me that four months ago when he learned she would be transferring to another site he bought her a small gift — a necklace. It was not expensive but he made sure he took money out of our bank account to purchase it behind my back. I think its progress that he admitted to this and did so as an attempt to save our marriage.
We are in therapy — just started — but I am not sure that I can bear the pain of this deception and all. He was able in therapy to admit to an attraction but to say its mostly a mentor relationship. He maintains this woman is in no way, shape or form interested in him. I used to think I was in therapy because of how my parents treated me, or because my wife was emotionally abusive, or because she had cheated on me, etc, etc. I had ignored my gut for so long that it had gotten sick so to speak.
It will get you to where you are supposed to be. I have been married for 18 years. I spent a week home with my husband and things seemed good. When he returned to working his night shift, I had a weird feeling and felt compelled to check his Facebook. When I checked the history, I saw he had been viewing the profile of a 28 year old woman he works with he is The pictures on her profile were all bikini pictures.
I confronted him the next day about this and he admitted he had a crush on her but that nothing happened between them. I was devastated because he was checking out her photos one night while I was asleep. He also admitted that he had been regularly deleting his FB history but that he was careless this one time and forgot to do it. He has told me he cares about her because she gets into trouble she is a real gem — married, has a coworker boyfriend and has been through six men at work already.
It bothered me because up until this incident, I thought he only had eyes for me. He also admitted that this crush of his has been for about a year. I decided to forgive him and he decided to deactivate his Facebook. I checked his laptop and saw that he has reactivated his FB account several times. The history has probably been cleared again. I know men are visual creatures. Do I confront him about the reactivation? I feel like I cant win here. He does seem to genuinely like me just not sure how much. I see him usually 1 week a month, sometimes 2.
Two months ago, I got a bad feeling in my gut, the kind I had in one past relationship where my ex cheated on me.
He seemed much more emotionally in tune with her then with me from what I could tell and he also knew her long before he met me. On the other hand something still feels off. Any advice would be appreciated. I also want to add that he does talk about a future with me. He talks about me going back to his country with him to visit and to meet his family. Also he texts me x a day and has ever since we met. Hi, He is a man who is a cheater aka; player. He is using you any way he can.
If your relationship with him were in a safe situation you wouldnt even be questioning his behavior you would know right off the top of your head if he were crazy in love with you. Say good bye, change the locks go see a nice psychologist who can lift up your spirits while you are sad about this. So you can move on and steer clear of losers like this.
Trust your inner feelings, you will find in the end you were right. You have to protect Yourself, as he seems to be giving you mixed feelings. You are the one that counts the most, never let anyone take advantage of you. About 3 months ago on a Thursday morning at 7: He looks over to see who was calling and got up and redialed the number. He then walked off into another room. When he came back I asked who was he talking with and he said the sister of someone we know well. And he grinned and said she had knee surgery and he had called to see how she was doing.
And I said what did she want and he said she was just returning the call. She works at the hospital where he works as a cashier in the cafeteria. He had introduced her to me about a year previous to this incident and gave me her name and said she was the brother of the person we both know. In is when he began to ask me if I knew her and I told him I did not.
I only know the brother and a couple other sisters of his. Well one evening he came home after their father died and asked me if I was going to the wake. I told him no, because I did not know her father like that. He said well lets go, I know her and you know her brother. Lets go and support them.
Both times this lady never opened her mouth to me. She just looked at me and said nothing both times. I think she forgot he was not at work when she placed that Thursday Morning call. Had she not placed that call I never would Have questioned him about this woman. He told me he had known her for over thirty years and we have been married for 49 years. It bothered me that he did not mention this to me when we were introduced and I knew nothing of this woman the whole time we have been married.
I told him he should have wished her good luck on her last day at work with her surgery and that should have been it. I asked him how many men who come through that line everyday called her to see how she was doing and they probably have been knowing her just as long or longer than he has.
I think there is something sinister going on here. I checked his phone and he had deleted the calls to and from her from his phone but I found them on the internet bill. There were three calls and he said he only called her once. I think if this woman is such a good friend of his I should have known this years ago since she came into our lives after we were married. After I got married I had no male friends because he accused me of going with every man I came in contact with. And he has his phone on him all the time, sometimes he leaves without telling me and his excuse is that his walking the dogs but when I call him while his walking the dogs it seems like his in the beach bathroom all the time we live right next to the beach.
His been acting different lately. When I try to ask him about him cheating, he calls me crazy or a dumb ass. He Denies it and try to cover it up. Please give me advice thank u. My husband did the same sort of things to me and he was definitely cheating. Believe me, he is feeding you a bunch of bunk. I am sorry this is happening, but you are very young and have your whole life ahead. I had two small children, too, and I moved on from me cheating husband.
I will pray for God to give you strength. I hope you have family close who can help you make a new start. You are worth it!! Much prayers and good luck!! Krizen, you have a few problems here. I was in the same situation with my wife many years ago.
You deserve to be treated better, and with honesty and respect. The other problem you have is that you are dependent on this man. I would consider trying to make other arrangements. If you have family or friends that can help and be supportive in the meantime while you try and get things together so that you can stand on your own 2 feet, that is something you should really consider. Trust me, what this dumbasses doing is just one little page in the entire book of your life. Your well-being is not dependent on this man, nor should it to be. I hope you do.
I know change can be scary but sometimes we have to walk through that fear to get something good on the other side. You need anything else or any other device or want to contact me just let me know.
Hi Mr Tommy D. However, he has cheated on me five times now. He cheated and a month later he moved to another city. Theresa, Sweetie, you are wasting your time. At least if you want something exclusive with this man. He is not behaving in any way that should gain your confidence. Trust your belly honey. Why are you wasting your time with him? Show a man love, faith, warmth, hard work and he will follow you. You are a woman, you have control in the end. Act like you are worth more than how he treats you.
With time, you will feel it I promise. Dear H, Yes, who did you hire? I walked into my husbands office unexpectedly and saw his phone under a file. At first I thought nothing of it. So if your friend can do it again please let me know. We have been married for 16 years. We both have had infidelity issues in the past but we have worked on them and moved on. I found out I had an std while I was pregnant, and the doctor gave him and I medication to get rid of the std.
I am pregnant again, and my husband insists we use condoms. If we have been cleared before, and I am pregnant, why use condoms? My instincts tell me that he may be cheating… but I cant figure out how he would have the time. They sneak off on breaks, and his wife is none the wiser. Sorry, but anyone can explain away a short amount of time. Hi, my husband has changed a lot.
He always start agruments even in small things which always turn out to be a big issues between us. I feel like somethings is really wrong. He always go to work even weekends.